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Y’all haven’t forgotten one of my first posts regarding filing for paternity, have you? If so, you can find it here and brush up on where we are at. Update: the papers haven’t been signed and filed yet, but they are filled out ready to go! This past month, we moved to the second phase of DNA testing. “We” being myself and Daenarys.
Types of DNA tests
According to the company I went with, GenTrace DNA Family Check, the most accurate testing done when using the Uncle/Aunt/Niece/Nephew test (also known as the Avuncular test) is when the mom is also tested. Granted, I have no doubts whatsoever about the test’s results. But I opted to splurge the extra money for the Avuncular test with mother.
Please note, there are many different familial match tests to choose from. The Avuncular test includes aunt/aunt/nephew/niece testing. There is the straight up paternity test, maternity test, grandparentage test, cousin test, sibling test, and twin test. There are actually other tests that involve just yourself for your own interest, and other various tests which I have no reason to go into here. I would really have to do some research to figure out why all of those tests are even a thing. For the complete list of tests, you can click here.
All of the above tests (the specifically mentioned ones, anyway) are offered at a certain price if you just want the private test to satisfy any existing relationship questions (the father is already on the birth certificate and doubts his status as biological father, he would likely be satisfied with the private test and not feel the need to take it to the courts). Then there is the second price for the legal test.
Please don’t purchase the legal DNA test with the understanding that the higher price said legal test includes collection and witnessing. You have to purchase that additionally during checkout. Lesson learned: when it seems too good to be true, it probably is.
Don’t ask me why the price of the legal test doesn’t include that already. I would have to purchase the private one to figure out what is so different about it, and I am not going to do that. Let me know if any of y’all are going to go that route! We can compare notes.
Things to consider…
While there are other companies out there, and perhaps even laboratories in the medical centers in your area, many of the online tests you can purchase are similarly priced or higher than the one I went with. You will probably just want to do your own research to figure out what is a better deal. Had I realized that I couldn’t take the DNA test at home and it been legal, I would probably have called some local laboratories and checked their pricing.
Brief recap of what I’ve covered so far: legal DNA testing is onle “legal” if collected and witnessed by a third party. Think chain of custody. Legal tests cost more than the private tests. And there are multiple different types of DNA tests that can be taken.
The total amount of money I had to pay out for the 3 people being tested, shipping, and collection and witnessing process was $560. I could have saved $75 had I had all three shipped to one location and had the witnessing and collecting done at the same location, date, and time. But I spent the extra money so that the stress of working around someone else’s schedule wasn’t on my shoulders.
In order to solidify the identity of both myself and Daenarys, I had to produce the following documents:
- Passport photos of all parties being tested;
- One form of identification for Daenarys (birth certificate); and
- Two forms of identification for me (drivers license and passport).
I got my passport photos taken at the local CVS. Using CVS or Walgreens beats the lines at the Post Office and the uncertainty of the post office’s available passport photo times.
DNA Collection and Testing
When I arrived for my appointment with the 3 above named items, the attendant at the lab opened the package in my presence and pulled out two separate packets. One for me and one for Daenarys. I had to sign the back of both pictures, copies of all of our identification documents, and all forms included in the packets. There was a LOT of signatures.
The actual DNA was a cheek swab that looked like two small mascara wands. Two swabs per person. I had to rub each one against the inside of my cheek for 30 seconds for mine. Hers was supposed to be the same, but with babies that gets a little difficult. However, I’m confident both of her swabs got a good amount of DNA on there.
The swabs were carefully placed in their packets to be returned for testing, the packets were sealed, and more signatures. Then it was all done and I walked out the door. Daenarys’s aunt will do the same for her test and then we will get the results. My test results were completed quickly, the end results are just waiting for me to get the aunt’s information to the company today.
Originally Daenarys’s uncle was going to take the test, but he wound up being called out of town for an extensive amount of time and did not want to make me wait until he got home to take the test. So he actually paid $75 to switch it from him to the aunt. They also required that I write out a letter with my signature authorizing them to use our DNA samples against the aunt’s instead of the uncle’s as was originally the plan.
Do some research in your local laboratories for price of legal DNA testing. They will probably be cheaper than having the test mailed to you and collected at a lab. It is also quite detailed and complex. And your baby will probably not like it. Daenarys protested the entire time.
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